I've gone away for a few minutes which usually means I'll let things like this pass, but I had to come back in response to this. And I haven't been involved in any sniping, flaming, joefan21 baiting, anything like that -- come on, find existing fault with me.
I agree totally with what Frank posted. This thread bothered me a bit to start with but now I do feel a need to speak out; I don't like the way Blowtorch is apparently the self-appointed moral watchdog for the forum -- it's one thing to step in and try to calm things down when others are being rude, abusive or antagonistic already but it's something else entirely to bring something to this public arena which basically points fingers and seeks to put down others.
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I'm sure you both posted on the forum how pleased you guys were with the trade and grateful to each other.
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Why? Why do they need to do this in public? In my opinion it's rather arrogant and rude if someone goes an extra mile supposedly for "good karma" then broadcasts that, pointing out what they've done to get recognition from anyone other than the original recipient. Conversely, as the recipient, I wouldn't necessarily want to make a big deal out of any unrequested extra goodwill in case I a)embarrassed them, or b)set up any expectations in others of that person. If the transaction wasn't conducted publicly, there's no obligation, personal or otherwise, to publicly comment on its outcome.
So you had what you felt was a bad experience, that you would have liked someone to acknowledge something you did. That is fair enough, it's not too much to expect a bit of courtesy from someone that you've gone out of your way for. But now I find that you apparently didn't bother contacting them privately to ask what was up, or to say that you were a bit put out by their not saying anything, but instead brought it up in public in a way that basically involved a sweeping generalisation of all the site members, a condemnation of us based on that, and at the same time placed yourself as morally superior. Like your Infantry 6-pack "experiment" to expose selfishness and greed. And your own pride, apparently.
I have thought Frank's "We know drama" sig is a bit close to the bone but for all of us who know what it means it's pretty funny -- I think it was a refreshing way of getting past that whole mess and I also really like the dual meaning aspect, as we do indeed know drama which all our diorama pics and stories can attest to. The "I want my comic pack Firefly" likewise made sense and was funny to all of us who knew where it came from, would go over the heads of any total newbies, and would possibly (hopefully) act as a deterrent to that troll trying to come back and start up right away, again.
Blowtorch's new sig is NOT going to put a very good message across to any potential members, and as I previously inferred, I don't see where the right comes from to make that kind of statement. For the record, I'm personally offended by it.
I may appear somewhat hypocritical for saying all this publicly, but it's the public debate of it that has drawn me in. I come here to share in the imaginative, creative use of GI Joe toys and if I can converse with like-minded people (publicly or privately) and further my involvement in the hobby I'm glad I have that ability too. And it's something I'll do on my own terms within the boundaries of the official site rules; I don't appreciate being judged as morally inferior, or needing to prove that I'm not according to the personal standards of one site member.
Finally -- thanks again, Blowtorch, for posting about the death of Captain America without any kind of spoiler warning, on the day of that comic's publication.