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Originally Posted by General Scarlett
Graham, you know what I'm going to say...............double the meaning and you'll be halfway there.........peace
What I don't get with so many of you guys, is HOW and WHY you find women like these who seem to not want to 'stick around'...........everyone is flawed, that's a given. But in the past 7 months I've read so many posts from so many guys who are going through things like this.
It's a bit confusing to me............what is it that you guys all want/need/desire??? And why is it so hard for your 'special someone', or you, to 'meet in the middle'????
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Seems to me most people either don't know what compromise is or just don't want to. Relationships are one of the hardest things to get right. I am 32, no children, never been married. I am in the best relationship I could ever imagine and I chock it up to patience. I never settled, I took my time and played the field looking for miss's right. I also think that it is an age thing. I got all the partying, chaos, curiosity out of my system (been there done that) so I, as well as my girl friend, are ready for a serious, comited relationship. It seems that most people are in such a rush to find that special someone and overlook critical aspects wich come back to haunt them.
Now for Sonneilons situation, as I stated I've not been married but I was engaged and she broke it off. I felt as The Faceless Master described, Zombified. I just kept myself busy and eventually I came out of the haze. I came to realize that my ex did me the biggest favor anyone has ever done in my life. There were complications such as a house we bought together, a car I cosigned for, some shared bills but for the most part those were taken care of cleanly.
I look back and realize that if I hadn't been engaged to this woman and bought a house where we did, that when we broke up and I started dating again I wouldn't have dated the person I am with now if I hadn't moved where I did. So a year of dating later I am now with the most perfect girl friend for me I could ever imagine. We are both in it for the long hall. So the moral of this Sonneilon is to take care of business with your wife as clean and efficient as you can, take the time to heel, and move on. Good things can come from bad. Make sure you wait a bit before you get back in the game because you do not want to be on the rebound and start dating. That just causes more problems (just trust me on this one).
I have found in life that if you put forth even the slightest effort that things ususally work out in the end. So for you I see that is the case. Life may be short, but its not that short. Take some time out for yourself.