G, really sorry to hear about your troubles
If there is absolutely no possibility of reconciliation, just keep your chin up

I too am undergoing the final stages of my divorce, for the most part its been
amicable, maybe cuz we don't even talk to each other but I think its for the best.
The only person I really feel bad for is our 4yr old daughter who I will no doubt
be the most affected by this.
The first two months were grueling to say the least, I felt like i couldn't breathe,
every morning i felt like i was missing an arm, all day I kept thinking about what
it is I did wrong, i felt like zombie with no purpose left in life.

But the last 5 months without my soon-to-be ex has been nothing short of
fantastic. Don't mope, don't sulk, take some time to reflect on yourself & see
what it is you REALLY want out of your life. All i want right now is to maximize
the time I have. I work 8a-5p at AT&T, I have a part time job with real estate,
and a second part time job at a small sports broadcasting station.
Weeks that I have custody of my 4yr old daughter, we're watching movies,
strolling the mall or over at Chuck'E'Cheese.
Every other weekend without my baby, I am out club hopping with my cousin
til 4am meeting people & just having a good time
When I am at home, I am either on the internet, learning to play the guitar,
or something but I always seem to find something to keep me busy.

It may not be making sense to you right now it may NEVER make sense to you,
but there is a reason for everything...