Mobius, good to see you around.

I know I've asked here and on the JBL as well as friends, "Just what is it with women who go back to their POS guys and/or STAY with them?" It's like, they know the situation sucks, but they can't make that step to do what is right. Sure, we all have our faults, but man... I was just angry with her because Kristine KNOWS the guy is gonna beat her again and what not. If not physically, then mentally.

Everyone I talked to about these generalized issues have said :

1) the gal is afraid of loss
2) the gal is afraid to be alone
3) the challenge IS to change the guy
4) they're dumb/damaged/mental, etc
5) low self-esteem
6) they learn to think that the abuse is NORMAL
7) they feel loved and abuse is love (got me on that one)



It's a good thing I never put that much emotional value into this one. I honestly felt RELIEVED when things blew over. Cuz the week before the blowout, I was having these sort of thoughts.

-What if our parenting styles don't mesh
-What if the kids don't get along
-Just how the frak do i get them up here. find them a place to live, where will she work etc.
-what if WE don't mesh in the end (which we obviously don't!)