now you listen here your not going anywheres now everyone needs to calm down........take a breath inhall.......exhall.......now...... scarlet you did a great job as mod here theres no reason for you to leave..... from what i could tell the forums was running pretty smooth......but we need you scarlet please don't leave i got it! i just come sit on you where you won't leave ;)

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Hahaha. Good Idea. We could all pile on and then she won't go noplace.. then half of us could go and find Frank and do the same thing :o

When i first joined, i was a little uneasy of being the teen on a site where alot of adults roamed. Mr. Frank was one of the first people to welcome me, and i value him as a friend. i really wish he would come back before he gets shipped off to Iraq in January. Please sir, COME BACK!!!!!!!!!! :( :( :(

Scarlett, cool off. Reacting like that to a little criticism is counterproductive, and doesn't speak volumes for your 'calm mind.'

I pitched in on the overmoderation charge -- with good reason -- but I think a few people have the mistaken impression that moderation is a negative thing or that it wasn't a good idea. Once a forum reaches a certain size, it's certainly necessary, and I think that happened here a while ago.

However, things like your overly emotional outburst here and in very many of the threads you've locked do no good. I've been administering forums for the better part of a decade, and the best mods are those with little to no personal investment in the forum. It's not easy to find people like that, particularly when a forum is smaller, so those of us who do end up in that position need to work VERY hard to keep ourselves calm.

It is work -- thankless work -- but when you choose to accept that responsibility, you need to understand that your responsibility is to monitor rule violations, NOT to impose whatever social guidelines you consider best.

Did ANY of you take a moment to think that MAYBE if you've got a difference in opinion with GS or any Mod-you should take it off-line and do it in PRIVATE?!? That MAYBE that's why feelings are hurt?

AMEN

I'm sorry that you or anyone thought that I was being 'overly emotional' with my posts.........but even though I KNOW your comment was meant to be a 'dispersion', to me, it's skirting a polite way of saying 'stop being such an overreactive woman'...........


Let's look at what the facts are, shall we??? I lock threads for two reasons.

1) They are becoming counterproductive and dissolving into petty chaos.....and I joined 'JoeDios', not 'Soap Operas 'r' Us'

2) I have been PM'ed, IM'ed, blatantly 'called out' for not stopping it sooner or at the very least 'moderating' it in a more productive and equal fashion. Or I recieve all of the above......and no matter what way I turn, I'm still wrong.

Now don't think that I'm 'freaking out' like all women MUST do.......I may not have been in the 'admin' job online for long, but I do Mod at 5 different sites, and I'm raising a teenager and I hold rather prominent positions in not only my church, but the Boy Scouts of America.....
So, I can assure you all that even when it seems like I'm 'overreacting'........I haven't even gotten past '1' on my 'freak dial'

And my 'outburst' was a direct result of so many people jumping on the bandwagon to beg Frank not to leave, when not everyone has all the facts........

I know that some of you think this is a 'boys club', and perhaps I have no business here, but I can assure you that this thought can't be further from the truth.

I'm just stating that I'll 'loosen the reigns'........and let's see where the horses take us..........down the path, or over the cliff. And since I'm proud of myself, my collection and the story I want to tell, so I guess you'll have to put up with me.....

As for Frank, I thought I knew where he and I stood friendship-wise.....but even I can admit when I'm wrong.........and for that I'm sorry as well........

Take good care Frank............

Persecution complex much? Wow.

........but even though I KNOW your comment was meant to be a 'dispersion', to me, it's skirting a polite way of saying 'stop being such an overreactive woman'...........

You can stow that crap, because I'm not sexist, and I'm not going to be painted that way. If you can't interact with the 'boys club' without whining about imagined discrimination, you should just keep your BS to yourself. I'm sure most of us would be a LOT harder on you if you WERE male. I have zero respect for this kind of "boo hoo why me, oh all men are out to get me" attitude, so it's a good thing you don't need any stupid man's approval, right? Right?

If your life is so difficult, perhaps you should consider not taking it out on us. By all means, turn your 'freak dial' all the way up if it'll help you cope. That's what we're here for, apparently.

You're obviously incapable of looking at this objectively (OMG THAT MUST HAVE BEEN SEXIST BECAUSE YOU'RE FEMALE!), so I guess I'll just stop. Lightening up would be a GOOD idea.

[ edit: Consider that none of this was even an issue when Fel or Sonneilon were running things... you do the math ]

Hey Phu-if you are so damned insightful,why don't YOU e-mail Hammerfel and offer to become the Admin? It sounds like you are the f*****g expert anyway!

GS is the ADMIN.She has EVERY right to DEMAND that our behavior conforms to her standards.WE do not own this board. I'm sure she doesn't need my help,but I'm getting sick of yours and some other guys attitudes! It seems like a lot of guys are real tough on-line.....I still wonder why you guys don't take this to PM.....